Thursday, December 29, 2005

Not to brag......but,
I have the most lovely
The most beautifull
The most wonderful friends in the world.

Once while i was living in Italy I felt lonely & bored, so i got on the local bus and decided to just sit and see where it went. It finally stoped somewhere and i waited in it for a half hour to restart and go back again. During that time I stared off in fervent prayer pleading to God and the universe for a girlfriend. A really good girlfriend - to share my heart & soul & laughter with. It took a couple years and a lot of lonely pain - but then one day it plopped a Lumina in my swimming pool! But not only that, she came with a seville house full of Emily p, Michelle, & Skye. One by one i fell in love with them as they fell in love with me.
Now they all live far away in separate homes with separate people and separate lives but the universe has not taken them away! We are still connected by a string of love
And I am blessed.
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Her love letter to us:

Dearest Emily, Lumina, Michelle, and Skye,

I send this picture to you, softened and sweetened by time and memories.
I wanted to wait for a special occasion, but realized the only and best occasion is...

...Now.

I send you my committment. You have it. Ask what you may of me.

- I trust you wholly.-

In the past,

Lumina asked me to let her need me.
Michelle asked me to let go of how tightly I was holding on.
Emily asked me to remember her.
Skye asked me to allow our friendship to evolve into true sisterhood.

The more I live, the more I realize how blessed I have been to taste of your magic...and how many other people never experience what we have.

I looked at this picture for a long time before sending it tonight.
I feel a bit silly writing this letter. There is so much love that we give each other so freely all the time... how is this one different?
Perhaps I'm just sticking one more love letter in your pile.

...And honestly, that's just fine with me.

That says quite a bit about you...

...Michelle.
...Skye.
...Lumina.
...Emily.


I love you so truly. You affect me daily.

Love love love love love love.......
Until next time, I have spoken.
-Emily Ann Potter



PS: I also have my Sasha too!

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

My Christmas weekend....



Gift baskets & money for families; organized by the church...




Keith 'n I helped deliver some...



Lisa (the fiancee) & Chris (keith's brother)




Nicole (keith's sister)



typical reaction from Kodie ;..(




Lisa's son Tyler



Keith's favorite present... A Jesus lamp!!!!




Xmas eve dinner w/ 1/2 the crew



Grandpa Neaman (Chuck) with Payton (nicole's boy)
.....so sweet......




for me?....




I love it - thank you :)



smile Payton




hell fire in a toddler, er uh i mean.... Kodie

Friday, December 23, 2005


Ho Ho Ho Merry Christmas!





Keith, Monkey, Zoe (babs), Me!




My little santa's helper...




warm & fuzzy






So I'm off to the inlaws for xmas! Im looking quite foreward to this time off:)
And it will be interesting since this is the first time i get to watch their whole nuclear family ineract together in one home. Mom, Dad, Keith + wife, Nicole + husband & 2 kids, Bother + fiancee. My very own seinfeld episode....

Happiness to all.....

Thursday, December 22, 2005

Horray for the days of holiness...



I made my first gingerbread men this year too E. Although i fell quite short in the decorating of them. I think i was just too worn out from all the kneading!



Preparing for the neighbors...
(since keith & I both had somewhat Jewish like mothers and have both allways had a manorah in the house, Its quite natural for us both to share a minimal Hanukah celabration in our home too)


Our Christmakah tree :)

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Happy Winter Solstice!
to all my Pagan goddess friends
(to whom i give much leeway in the self-labeling of pagan)

Today is the shortest day of the year and the first day of winter! brrrrrr....


The sun today.....





Winter solstice sunrise at Signal Hill, Arizona


http://scienceworld.wolfram.com/astronomy/WinterSolstice.html

http://www.candlegrove.com/solstice.html#open

http://www.mythicalireland.com/

http://www.chinesefortunecalendar.com/yinyang.htm

Tuesday, December 20, 2005

Women Who Make the World Worse
Kate O’Beirne calls feminists on their bad ideas.
Q&A by Kathryn Jean Lopez

"They talk "freedom of choice," but feminists are too contemptuous of dissenting women to allow them to choose freely how to live their lives without ridicule and disdain," Kate O'Beirne writes in her new book, Women Who Make the World Worse: and How Their Radical Feminist Assault Is Ruining Our Schools, Families, Military, and Sports. And she would know. Having taken on some feminist stalwarts on Capitol Hill and the likes of Crossfire, Kate puts a final (or so we can hope) nail in feminism's coffin in her new book, calling their bad ideas out with facts and figures and good sense.
NRO Editor Kathryn Lopez recently talked to NR Washington Editor Kate O'Beirne about Women Who Make the World Worse.

Kathryn Jean Lopez: Kate, knowing you and your reputation, I was not surprised to read that you were a traitor to your sex even in law school. Does wanting to see other women fail just come naturally to you?

Kate O'Beirne: Having been raised with three sisters and educated by women in a girls-only high school and all-female college, it was jarring to find myself labeled as a traitor to my sex. Some of my best friends were women! But I never believed that men and women were interchangeable, that marriage was a patriarchal plot, or that women's equality rested on abortion rights. So wanting to see feminists fail came naturally to me.

Lopez: You mentioned the influence of the women in your background. But does being the mother of boys make you especially sensitive to women who make male lives worse?

O'Beirne: The men in our lives can shape our views on the most destructive ideology afoot. I have long thought that if high-school boys had invited homely girls to the prom we might have been spared the feminist movement. We live with the destructive feminist agenda because the fathers or husbands of so many of them, including Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinem, Germaine Greer, and Jane Fonda, never failed to fail them. The views of these angry, abandoned women inform the modern women's movement.

Lopez: You write that "A battle was won when the ETA was defeated, but feminists went on to win the war." How did they win — it lost, for Pete's sake — and if they won why don't they act like winners?
O'Beirne: What feminists couldn't impose by constitutional amendment (thanks to Phyllis Schlafly) they have imposed through the schools, college faculties, and the culture, by judicial fiat and advocacy dressed up as legislation. Don't be fooled by their militant insistence that women's equality has been thwarted. These women are chronically dissatisfied and qualified for only one job: professional feminist. They are generously paid, largely by taxpayers, but also by corporations anxious to look good on "women's issues." The fact that American women are the most privileged women in the history of mankind (woops!) must be vehemently denied.
Because their goal of a sex-blind society is frustrated by biology (see my last chapter — "Mother Nature Is a Bitch"), feminists' schemes are increasingly coercive. In that sense, they are losers.
Lopez: You write that "The Jobs Rated Almanac reveals that twenty-three of the twenty-five jobs rated as the worst are over 90 percent male." I bet a man wrote that.

O'Beirne: That's just one of the many uncomfortable facts that feminists ignore in order to make their dishonest claims. Men make up 54 percent of the workforce, but account for 92 percent of job-related deaths. Jobs that are flexible, fulfilling, and safe (so typically favored by women) pay less. Feminists hate it when that happens.

Lopez: Seriously though, feminist always go on about unequal pay when most pay discrepancies simply make sense and are, in fact, fair, right? Why can't anyone get them to shut up?

O'Beirne: The persistent fable that women are denied equal pay for equal work has been a never-empty tank of gas that fuels feminism. A sympathetic public is largely unaware that the claim that women face widespread wage discrimination is a myth aggressively advanced by feminists. Disparities in wages exist between women with children and men and single women. This is not sex discrimination, but if that were better understood feminists would have to get real jobs.

Lopez: Abortion gets the rap as the topic you can't bring up in polite company, but daycare is pretty incendiary too. Talk about day care's healthy and developmental drawbacks and you're mommy warring. But our reticence to talk about it is a problem, isn't it?

O'Beirne: Any discussion of day care's drawbacks invites the wrath of the child-care industry and their friends in the media. Proponents of the male model of career success for women and substitute care for young children — typically working mothers themselves — use subterfuge and censorship to thwart the free choices women make. As you'll learn in Chapter 2, "Day Care Good; Mother Bad," the propagandists don't just insist that day care benefits children, they see stay-at-home mothers as a timid and fearful lot whose full-time attention damages their children.

Lopez: In 1977, Jean Stapleton, hanging out with Bella Abzug announced that Edith Bunker would support the ERA "if she understood it." Does that pretty much sum up what the feminist establishment thinks of many American women?

O'Beirne: The modern feminist movement has never enjoyed the allegiance of a majority of American women and that condescension represents feminists' explanation when confronted with the evidence. The rest of us are too stupid to recognize our oppression. One of the most celebrated feminists you'll meet in the book dismisses the surveys reporting that married women are happier than single women by attributing their contentment to being "slightly mentally ill."

Lopez: "Modern feminism's biggest enemies are the smallest humans." Without caricaturing the Left too much: What about "Her body, her choice?" People get into tough situations. Is it really fair to characterize it as a war against unborn children?

O'Beirne: Feminist fundamentalism holds that the battle of the sexes can't be won unless women make war on the tiniest enemies of their independence. How can we be the equal of men when our bodies betray us? These women aren't arguing that abortion must be available for the hard cases. They believe that women's fertility makes us inherently inferior to men, so there can be no restrictions at all on abortion. Lacking the public's support for their radical abortion agenda, they wrap their demands in a tissue of euphemisms and lies and fiercely fight to keep the issue in the courts insulated from public opinion. The majority of the public, including the majority of women, oppose the majority of abortions.

Lopez: Why do you raise questions about women in the military while we're at war? Don't we need every man or woman we can get in our overstretched military?

O'Beirne: In the lull of peacetime, regulations that kept women in uniform at a safe distance from combat were lifted. We are now paying the price and being made to think that our national defense rests on the ability to deploy teenage girls and single mothers. What a disgrace. In the name of a phony equality, the military shouldn't ask women to serve where they don't have an equal chance to survive. Experience with integrating the service academies and the great majority of military specialties has shown that women can't and don't meet the male physical standards. The institutionally self-confident Marine Corps hasn't integrated its basic training and has little trouble recruiting the kind of good men who recognize that women should be protected from physical threats.

Lopez: Do you want men to beat their wives? How can you be against the Violence Against Women Act?

O'Beirne: It's possible to recognize that physical abuse within a relationship shouldn't be considered a "private matter" and not support enacting an ideological agenda dressed up as legislation. The feminist conviction that marriage is inherently abusive and all men potential assailants won a federal imprimatur, and well over $1 billion, with this legislation that congressmen were too intimidated to resist. This program, packed with feminist pork, has the female psychologist who declared that "all female-male relationships [are] more or less abusive" on the public payroll training police, prosecutors, and judges.

Lopez: Was there ever a gender gap? There had to be a problem selling George W. Bush to women or the campaign would have never bothered with a "W Is for Women" gimmick, right?

O'Beirne: What can I say? Republicans can be dopey about the so-called gender gap. It was first aggressively promoted in 1980 when Ronald Reagan beat Carter among women voters, but by a smaller margin than his win among men. Hyping the supposedly intractable gender gap was useful to browbeat Walter Mondale into picking a female running mate. While Geraldine Ferraro was busy making history on the other ticket, Reagan was winning over women voters — by a margin of 56 to 44. As I show, convincingly I hope, there is no monolithic women's vote and there is no monolithic women's agenda.

Lopez: What's the worst thing that women who make the world worse do?
O'Beirne: They put us at war with the men in our lives, the fathers, husbands, and sons who love and support us. Because men don't like arguing with women and naively assumed that if they gave feminists what they wanted they would be left alone, the allegedly fierce patriarchy collapsed in the face of the feminist assault. The moral intimidation feminists inflict on men means that other women have to take on the modern, destructive women's movement. In the pages of my book you will meet some of the smart, admirable women who take on the feminists. The feminist message is crippling to our daughters, but we mothers of sons in particular have to defend our offspring. We are not raising unindicted co-conspirators in the gender wars!

Lopez: Has Hillary Clinton's work making the world worse only begun? Would a President Rodham Clinton unleash a destructive feminist nightmare on the world much worse than anything Geena Davis could ever portray?

O'Beirne: Oh boy. Hillary Clinton is a committed feminist. She's a true believer in the grievance agenda and promotes the myth of stunted progress for women's equality. She would reliably be one of the women who make the world worse by endorsing all of feminism's pet causes — strict sex quotas for college sports, "girl power" in our schools, the "epidemic" of domestic violence, abortion on demand (despite her phony rhetoric), universal, federally funded day care, enforced "equal pay for equal work" and women in combat. I have to lie down now.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1595230092/ref=nosim/104-7537199-1915949?n=283155
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Are you a feminist?
What does it even mean to be "feminist"
And what about you makes you a feminist?

I've been thinking about this since the recent emails circulating between friends. I have yet to comment on the issue because i feel that my thoughts and opinions may differ from my contemporaries and so my always initial reation to agree and please is conflicted with my confused convictions (if that makes any sense)

And so i have briefly looked up a few definitions of the word feminism to see where my personal beliefs may stand in a purely objective and open way. This is a very interesting exploration of my self because I have been a very independent and adventerous young woman with a firey constitution. Yet I recognize that some of the greatest blessings in my life come from men. And oh do I love men (some at least).

It also seems to me that those who label themselves a "feminist" have an underlying grudge against some man or situation. Where as I feel more than justified to say i've been abused by men in one way or another, I do not feel victimized by anyone. In fact, i have been known to use my femininity as a seductive tool to maniputlate or fool. I am a strong and capable woman - Hear me roar etc.. etc....

I just think its too easy for women today to feel entitled to an outlook of selfishness. And dare I say this, forget our wifely duties! Feminism should not mean man-bullying. I believe that women are just as good as men - but not better. I believe I am stonger than many men - and just as weak to others. I believe God loves his little girls equally as much as his little boys. I believe I am capable of voting, driving, employment, and making good choices as much as any man. I also recognize our inherant differences that make us better at some things than others. Part personality, part genetic makeup, part culture and training, and yes - part sex. And then comes my belief in the sacred role of Motherhood; a gift / responsibility to be treated with the highest respect.

Below are copies of some definitions i found online.
I would appreciate comments on your thoughts............

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Feminism
"The view, articulated in the 19th century, that women are inherently equal to men and deserve equal rights and opportunities. More recently, a social and political movement that took hold in the United States in the late 1960s, soon spreading globally. "



fem·i·nist (fm-nst)
n.
A person whose beliefs and behavior are based on feminism.
adj.
Relating to feminism.


[noun] a doctrine that advocates equal rights for women
[noun] the movement aimed at equal rights for womenSynonyms: feminist movement, women's liberation movement, women's lib



DEFINING FEMINISMThe following tripartite definition is from the soc.feminism FAQ file (http://www.cs.uu.nl/wais/html/na-dir/feminism/info.html):
1. The belief that women and men are, and have been, treated
differently by our society, and that women have frequently
and systematically been unable to participate fully in all
social arenas and institutions.
2. A desire to change that situation.
3. That this gives a "new" point-of-view on society, when
eliminating old assumptions about why things are the way
they are, and looking at it from the perspective that women
are not inferior and men are not "the norm."




Feminism Defined:
"What follows are different branches of feminism theory that are recognized by feminists and feminist scholars. These different theories of feminism are widely acknowledged and taught in women's studies courses, gender studies courses, and the like.
Like many, I also recognize that people have created their own definition of feminism to best suit them. The definitions here are theorectical, and are an example of the diversity among feminists. See where you fit in, or even if you do.

Feminism
Feminism is theory that men and women should be equal politically, economically and socially.
This is the core of all feminism theories. Sometimes this definition is also referred to as "core feminism" or "core feminist theory." Notice that this theory does not subscribe to differences between men and women or similarities between men and women, nor does it refer to excluding men or only furthering women's causes. Most other branches of feminism do.
Why you believe in feminism and what your ideas are to make feminism a reality is what causes arguments within the feminism movement.
You may find that you believe in the theory of feminism, but do not see yourself fitting into the branches of feminism below, that is common. You can believe that women and men should be politically, economically and socially equal for your own reasons and hold your own ideas pertaining how you can make that happen. If that is the case, then generally you can consider yourself a feminist.

Feminist
One who believes in the theory of feminism that is mentioned above.

Amazon Feminism
Amazon feminism is dedicated to the image of the female hero in Greek mythology, as it is expressed in art and literature, in the physiques and feats of female athletes, and in sexual values and practices.
Amazon feminism focuses on physical equality and is opposed to gender role stereotypes and discrimination against women based on assumptions that women are supposed to be, look, or behave as if they are passive, weak and physically helpless. Amazon feminism rejects the idea that certain characteristics or interests are inherently masculine (or feminine), and upholds and explores a vision of heroic womanhood.
An Amazon feminist, for example, would argue that some people are not cut out physically to be a fire fighter, serve in combat, or work in construction. Whereas some people are physically capable of doing such jobs. No mention of gender is made, as the jobs should be open to all people regardless of gender. Those men and women who are physically capable and want to, should pursue such jobs. Amazon feminists tend to view that all women are as physically capable as all men.

Cultural Feminism
The theory that there are fundamental personality differences between men and women, and that women's differences are special and should be celebrated. This theory of feminism supports the notion that there are biological differences between men and women. For example, "women are kinder and more gentle then men," leading to the mentality that if women ruled the world there would be no wars. Cultural feminism is the theory that wants to overcome sexism by celebrating women's special qualities, women's ways, and women's experiences, often believing that the "woman's way" is the better way.

Ecofeminism
Ecofeminism is a theory that rests on the basic principal that patriarchial philosophies are harmful to women, children, and other living things. Parallels are drawn between society's treatment of the environment, animals, or resources and its treatment of women. In resisting patriarchial culture, eco-feminists believe they are also resisting plundering and destroying of the Earth. They feel that the patriarchial philosophy emphasizes the need to dominate and control unruly females and the unruly wilderness.
Ecofeminism states that the patriarchial society is relatively new, something developed over the last 5,000 years or so and that the matriarchial society was the first society. In the matriarchial society, women were the center of society and people worshipped Goddesses. This is known as the Feminist Eden.

Feminazi
This term was made popular by the radio/tv host Rush Limbaugh. A feminazi is defined by anti-feminists as a feminist who is trying to produce as many abortions as possible. Hence the term "nazi." Limbuah sees feminists as trying to rid the world of a particular group of people (fetuses).

Individualist, or Libertarian Feminism
Individualist feminism is based upon individualism or libertarian (minimum government or anarchocapitalist) philosophies. The primary focus is individual autonomy, rights, liberty, independence and diversity. Individualist Feminism tends to widely encompass men and focuses on barriers that men and women face due to their gender.

Material Feminism
A movement in the late 19th century to liberate women by improving their material condition. This movement revolved around taking the "burden" off women in regards to housework, cooking, and other traditional female domestic jobs. The Grand Domestic Revolution by Charlotte Perkins Gilman is a reference.
Moderate Feminism
This branch of feminism tends to be populated mostly by younger women or women who have not directly experienced discrimination. They tend to question the need for further effort, and think that feminism is no longer viable. They often view feminism as embarrassing (it's thought that this is the group most likely to espouse feminist ideas and thoughts while denying being "feminist").

N.O.W. Feminism (also referred to as Gender Feminism)
My own term for the type of feminism the National Organization for Women represents. This theory is based on the notion that in order for men and women to be equal (as the core of 'feminism' states), women must be granted some special privilages, and men should not be an issue in feminism.
This could be exemplified by N.O.W. publicly supporting women who wish to enter traditional all-male scools. While N.O.W. will take strong and loud stands to support that, they are silent regarding men being able to enter traditional all-female schools. Another example could be how N.O.W. is quick to support women as public icons who are victims of sexual harassment, yet offer no public support for men as pulbic icons who are victims of sexual harassment. In both instances, N.O.W. feminism encompases only women and fights to offer special privilages to women with the intent of making women equal to men.

Pop-Feminism
Pop-feminism is often mistaken by people to be feminism in general... the negative stereotypical man hating ideology. There is no proof that such feminists exist, I have yet to meet a feminist who hates men and indeed, many men are feminists. But, if such a category of feminists exist, they should be referred to as 'pop-feminists.' This would be the type of feminism that degrades men in all manners and glorifies women.

Radical Feminism
Radical feminism is the breeding ground for many of the ideas arising from feminism. Radical feminism was the cutting edge of feminist theory from approximately 1967-1975. It is no longer as universally accepted as it was then, and no longer serves to solely define the term, "feminism."
This group views the oppression of women as the most fundamental form of opression, one that cuts across boundaries of race, culture, and economic class. This is a movement intent on social change, change of rather revolutionary proportions.
Radical feminism questions why women must adopt certain roles based on their biology, just as it questions why men adopt certain other roles based on theirs. Radical feminism attempts to draw lines between biologically-determined behavior and culturally-determined behavior in order to free both men and women as much as possible from their previous narrow gender roles.

Separatists
Separatists are often depicted as lesbians. These are the feminists who advocate separation from men; sometimes total, sometimes partial. Women who organize women-only events are often dubbed separatist.
The core idea is that "separating" (by various means) from men enables women to see themselves in a different context. Many feminists, whether or not separatist, think this is a necessary "first step," for personal growth. However, they do not necessarily endorse permanent seperation.
It is inaccurate to consider all lesbians as separatist. While it is true that they do not interact with men for sexual fulfillment, it is not true that they automatically shun all interaction with men. "

Sunday, December 18, 2005

Zoe & Monkey

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Please comment if you think this counts as art.....

Sunday, December 04, 2005

Mission Aborted - case: Unsuccessful.


It started off a normal drive to Yakima with my van loaded with lasers for work..


Until a light drift of snowflakes fluttered in my view...




But those few drifting snowflakes turned into a blizzarding torrential dumping of snow in a matter of minutes!



I could barely see out my windshield and the clock was quickly ticking for my noon case in yakima.



the beauty was disstracting me from the purpose at hand



but still i had to hurry through it...


until the wheels underneath me slid from side to side - then i knew it was time to pull over and chain up. Oh what a pain in the but!



I worked on it till i was wet, cold to the bone, and on the brink of tears. I pathetically looked around me and this nice man came to my rescue!



Isnt he wonderfull... for 45 min he fuddled with the mess i made



Eurika! Movability again - but Im definately not making it all the way today a 10 miles an hour. The phone call of shame to the boss man and the A-Okay to turn around home!!!!!



Not a bad days work!